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It's not Me, It's You

Collapse-awareness: an incurable case of existential dread

I'm incurable.

I've been to psychologists and while the venting seems to help, nothing really cures me from my constant dread. I'm not a mental health expert, but I believe psychologists are simply not equipped to deal with existential anxiety.

Worried about nothing in general? Cognitive behavioural therapy can help.

Suffer from stage fright? There's a pill for that.

Crippled by depression? It could be caused by an chemical imbalance in your brain.

Under normal circumstances, psychologists have methods for dealing with these issues. They are temporary or internal - caused by one's own brain. I.e. a "me" problem.

But what if the source of my dread is permanent and external. In other words, my brain is not the problem. My brain is simply observing facts. How do you cure reality?

Whether you're toiling in a concentration camp, trapped in the sunken Kursk submarine, or simply observing the burning world, there is no cure for reality. Most mainstream psychologists aren't equipped or experienced enough to deal with these things. Also, many collapse-aware don't know how to broach the subject.

The best most professionals can do is listen and prescribe a mind-numbing agent. (I still can't decide whether anti-anxiety meds are a good or bad thing to use in this situation.)

However, there is a branch of psychology dedicated to those in hospice. This is the closest the profession comes to being capable of dealing with collapse-awareness. If you're experiencing existential dread, I believe a professional must attack the anxiety from this angle.

The collapse-aware have unique needs from psychologists. They don't need someone to tell them "it's going to be alright". So what do we need?

For some, that's what religion is for. Religion makes death and the unknown palatable. It also gives the illusion that something is in control and that this chaos is by design. I understand the appeal.

Realistically, most collapse-aware are evidence based thinkers and won't accept religion. At least not in the traditional sense.
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Side note: I have tailored my views on religion beyond belief vs disbelief. First of all, I don't follow any organized religion. Rather, I view the concept of god as a metaphor for the beauty and mystery of the world. My 'religion' is about doing, not talking, symbolizing or worshipping. In fact, if there were a god entity, I believe that entity would judge people by what they do with their lives, not by whether they believe in him or visit a designated building weekly. I once created a set of rules for my own 'religion'. One day I'll share more. Anyway, back to the program...

If you happen to find the right collapse-aware psychologist, here's what they should provide:

Validate and normalize your feelings
Encourage you to talk and explore fears
Create relaxation techniques
Help you create meaning from your life, however long it may be
Find acceptance and peace with the inevitable
Identify areas of personal control

Good luck finding one though. It takes extra effort, and sometimes you must cycle through a few to find the someone suitable. As many of you know, there are many psychologists (and people in general) who still believe this doomsday shit is overblown.

Moreover, not everyone has the funds, ability or inclination to find and work with with a psychologist. So below I've provided a few resources to help manage through the fear of collapse.

Read the full article and have a look at the video's mentioned here:

collapse2050.com/its-not-me-it

Collapse 2050 · It's not Me, It's YouCollapse-awareness: an incurable case of existential dread

I mentioned earlier that I have this weird thing where sometimes I can't do things that I need to do. I had a period of three months where I wouldn't check my payslips, even though I needed to in case I got underpaid. I have frequent periods where I can't check my emails. This is especially if I've emailed someone I'm not close to and am expecting a reply.

As example is if I received faulty goods on Ebay. I've missed out on refunds because I send the complaint, but then I actively avoid checking for a reply.

Does anyone else experience things like this? I was looking at demand avoidance: autism.org.uk/advice-and-guida

But I don't know if it's that or some weird manifestation of #anxiety. The best I can describe it is apprehension? It's hard to put a proper name to it. I get milder forms, where for instance if I need to transfer money to my savings and there's nothing stopping me, but I won't be able to do it. Then randomly I'll snap out of it and feel like I can do it. It's not procrastination or getting distracted. It's a different feeling from that.

@actuallyautistic @neurodiversity

www.autism.org.ukDemand avoidanceResistance to demands is a characteristic experienced by and observed in some autistic people. It is sometimes labelled as Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), but there is debate about the evidence for and usefulness of this label.

Time for an #Introduction post. I’m a #liveaboard #sailor (www.svloka.com) and full time #nomad who is also a #creative #artist. I play #guitar, #crochet, paint (#watercolor & #acrylic), and draw #penandink. I love #yoga and use #meditation to manage my #anxiety. Got #sober in 2020.

I am a recovering #softwareengineer (#programmer) and #ITmanager. I focused a lot on #leadership & effective #communication, and I still enjoy #mentoring people on those topics. I still tinker with tech on occasion.

New Fedi, new #introduction post~

Hi, I'm Eleonora! I'm a 39 year old American trans woman living in the UK! I'm an ADHD, autistic individual who identifies as polyamorous, sapphic, and demi-ace. If the entity reading this knows me from elsewhere, then welcome back! I hope we can be friends and have fun together!
:ElainaHeart:

This fedi blog is mostly a personal reflection of myself, my interests, my mental health struggles, trans rights advocacy, and a place where I can be cute and flourish. I gently ask that anyone who follows me or interacts with me
be 18 years of age or older, as I can and will post NSFW content. All follower requests will be vibe-checked for the sake of my/my friends' safety. Basically, just be 18 or older, not have an empty biio, and respect others and I'll likely accept it! ​:blob_cat_salute:

My topics and interests include:

- Anime
- Sapphic/lesbian content (memes, etc)
- Mecha (Gundam, Gunbuster, Franxx, etc)
- Retro console gaming and related technology
- Posting about my girlfriends (of which I currently have two)
- Work regarding my charity
- Girls
- Mental health (both personal and advocacy for)
- Final Fantasy XIV (FFXIV)
- Monster Hunter (the new title is Wilds. HMU?)
- Old digital/analog technology
- LGBTQIA+ culture
- Being a trans mom

Due to some interactions on my previous fedi, I have to set some boundaries (I'm in my villain arc, I guess?)

- I am demi-asexual. That means do not
heavily flirt with me or approach me sexually without asking for consent! If unsure, ask. It's okay to, I promise.
- Do not be weird to my girlfriends or overstep my polycule boundaries, please. I don't like blocking entities.
- Anything that happened in the past (iykyk),
stays in the past for everyone's benefit. I shouldn't have to even say this, but I do.
- I am autistic and I struggle with RSD; please don't approach me in vague terms. It's important to communicate with me bluntly and concisely, because I am dense.

I'll add more here as I go, so expect edit notifications XD But thanks so much for reading! Have a wonderful day!

#noraposting #autism #adhd #makingfriends #anxiety #transfem #trans #sapphic #retro #mecha #ffxiv #monsterhunter

I mean, this is funny.. but also I spent my therapy session last week talking about how I think WW3 has already started.. so...

Also finding a psychologist who deals with me as an Aboriginal person living under settler colonialism has been ground breaking for my mental health. Definitely recommend.

#audhd#autism#adhd

As someone who's been studying brain sciences for a number of years (wow, has it really been 5 years now??), I get disheartened when I realise I'm anxious about something. Surely, I think, I should be immune to something I have a reasonable understanding of

But then I'm fascinated by both the anxiety and the feeling of being disheartened. Of course I'm not immune, though understanding a little about what's going on does dramatically help reduce both the occurrences and the intensity and duration of an occurrence

In fact, if there's one thing I can highly recommend from all of this, it's to practise simply noticing (-->non-judgmentally<--) when you get irritated, frustrated, uneasy, awkward, upset, guilty, etc.

It's harder than it sounds because strong feelings have a tendency to drown out all other thinking, but if you start by doing this after the feelings have died down, over time you get better at seeing them actually happen, and this can help you identify and challenge responses that really aren't doing you any good

Note: the "non-judgmental" part is really really important here. This applies to both judgment of you and other people, including the person who dangerously cut in line in front of you

Providing children (and ourselves) with tools to manage anxiety is important. Our executive director Jen Fischer shares the books and tools that work for her family at Multicultural Kid Blogs. multiculturalkidblogs.com/2024

#Anxiety #Bookstodon #MentalHealth #MentalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #SelfCare #Education #Homeschoolig #Parenting #Families @education @mentalhealth @bookstodon